Mood: :neutral:

When I found years ago that I could not talk to my wife about my feelings for various reasons that I have mentioned here before but will not reiterate I started to put those feelings onto my blog. She would read my blog, find out how I really felt and then we would discuss it or not. In retrospect that was really fucked up, but since I had never been married before I had no idea what normal was; I was trying anything to salvage my sanity.

When everything fell apart I naturally put it all onto this blog. My best friend had moved away and I was feeling very alone. I needed to vent. When I found out about the infidelities I again put it all down here.

When I speak to people who don’t have blogs about the things I’ve written here I’m asked what the hell I was thinking. Why would I put such personal information on the web for all to see? My reasoning was that all the friends and acquaintances that I never see anymore can get an update on my life, which is what blogs are for in the first place. I had an acquaintance approach me at the grocery store because he had read my blog and we commiserated a bit about ex-wives and kids, which might not have happened otherwise.

However, at this point there’s no reason to continue in this vein. My marriage is over and I’m moving on with my life. The ex and I will work together for the betterment of the kids’ lives, and our own, so there’s no point in dredging up crap; it only holds us back from working on what’s important. Therefore I vow to keep the personal crap out of this blog and may even “sanitize” previous entries when I have time.

I appreciate the support friends, acquaintances and even perfect strangers on the web have given me. Tune in for exciting posts such as if I was a tree what kind of tree would I be.


2 Comments to “The Blog Charter of Rights and Freedoms”

  1. Bronn — April 21, 2007 @ 11:33 pm

    As said acquaintance, I’ll suggest that it takes courage to post that kind of stuff for the world to see, rather than “sterilizing” it. I’m not sure I could do that.

    You never like seeing this kind of thing happen to people you know, and I know you both, even if its not closely. I’m just happy to see that you’re moving on and finding some happiness in a tough time. I hope to see you again at the store before you move to Abby.

    PS. Drop by my blog anytime. :)

  2. Joe Fulgham — April 24, 2007 @ 11:47 am

    While reigning in your public display of your personal life, I’m against “sanitizing” your old posts. They’re honest and strong and are something others may get some solace or strength from.

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